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An Open Letter To Sarah Huckabee Sanders: Discarded
You're never special to a narcissist. You're a tool. And if you think you're going to be rewarded for loyalty, you're also a fool. You were fooled, Sarah, and you've made a fool of the people who voted for you.
spiritsonghcdc
Apr 283 min read
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Unraveled: Unbinding the Patriarchal Spell of Self-Abandonment
The bottom line is that our patriarchal society was built on selling codependency as a virtue.
spiritsonghcdc
Apr 233 min read
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America is (Still) in an Abusive Relationship
The truth is I've been struggling as well. The collision of this second term with other big traumas, triggers, and life events has me altern
spiritsonghcdc
Apr 43 min read
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Child Custody Mediation With a Narcissist: A Gift in Disguise?
Anything that ends with "with a narcissist" is liable to be triggering for anyone who's been in a relationship with someone who has...
spiritsonghcdc
Mar 203 min read
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Psychological Maltreatment 101: A Lesson on the World Stage
I've done a lot of work to heal myself over the last 8 years. Specifically that means understanding the generational trauma that I've...
spiritsonghcdc
Mar 13 min read
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Understanding the Narcissistic Playbook
The current state of political affairs in the United States has me a little shook lately. It's a replay of 2016 to some extent, but I've...
spiritsonghcdc
Feb 65 min read
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The Suitcase: Generational Trauma and Codependency
Baggage. We all have it. But I hadn’t really stopped to think about what that looks like until recently when I started being confronted...
spiritsonghcdc
Feb 25 min read
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Countering CAMS (Child And Mother Sabotage) 101
You feel like you're losing your kids to your abuser and you don't understand why they are behaving and responding to you in ways that...
spiritsonghcdc
Dec 29, 20246 min read
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CAMS: Child And Mother Sabotage
I sat down to work on some TikTok content the other day and had one of those life affirming moments of clarity. In the midst of...
thebelvinaproject
Dec 28, 20244 min read
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The Flying Monkey Effect: They're All Around Us
If you've been in the narcissistic abuse world long enough, you know what a flying monkey is. It's the narcissist's circle of loyalists...
spiritsonghcdc
Dec 6, 20243 min read
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My Biggest Mistake: What-Not-to-Do When Co-Parenting With a Narcissist
This is a tough one for me. I have spent the better part of the last eight years doing the heavy lifting of healing from cptsd and...
spiritsonghcdc
Nov 22, 20243 min read
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The Metaphor Continues: Abuser Gets Full Custody
Sigh. I've had to do a lot of coaching myself in the last 48 hours--radical acceptance, circle of control, breathe in...healing means...
spiritsonghcdc
Nov 7, 20244 min read
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The "Dominant" Parent Trap
Dominance. That's their agenda. A quick Google for synonyms for the word dominant brings up ruling, governing, controlling, commanding, supr
spiritsonghcdc
Oct 10, 20243 min read
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Pregnancy: Igniting the Narcissist
Hindsight can be a real bitch. Looking back you can see so clearly how things played out. You can see the moments where you said "This...
spiritsonghcdc
Oct 2, 20244 min read
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Is Coercive Control Lurking in Your Life?
Or is it sitting there in the recliner in the middle of the living room, barking orders at the kids, insulting you, and not participating...
spiritsonghcdc
Sep 23, 20244 min read
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Helplessness to Hopefulness: Connection and Emotional Support
2016 Almost broke me. It triggered wounds I thought I’d healed and moved on from and presented bountiful opportunities for those that...
spiritsonghcdc
Aug 20, 20245 min read
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The Debate and Family Court: Abuse on Stage
I wasn't home when the debate started last Thursday, which was fine because I didn't want to watch it anyway. I knew what would happen. I...
spiritsonghcdc
Jul 1, 20244 min read
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Skull Crusher: That Sounds Fun!
If you knew that a particular rock formation along the river was called "Skull Crusher", would you willingly go over the falls without a...
spiritsonghcdc
Jun 26, 20243 min read
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5 Tips for Communicating With Your Abuser After Separation
These early days after you've filed are pivotal in setting the tone for how you will be perceived by the court...
spiritsonghcdc
May 28, 20244 min read
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An Open Letter to the Mom I Used to Be
I see you mama, sitting on those steps while your kids obliviously hang on the rails or sit there not even caring at all that they're...
spiritsonghcdc
May 9, 20244 min read
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