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spiritsonghcdc
44 minutes ago5 min read
Understanding the Narcissistic Playbook
The current state of political affairs in the United States has me a little shook lately. It's a replay of 2016 to some extent, but I've...
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spiritsonghcdc
4 days ago5 min read
The Suitcase: Generational Trauma and Codependency
Baggage. We all have it. But I hadn’t really stopped to think about what that looks like until recently when I started being confronted...
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spiritsonghcdc
Dec 29, 20246 min read
Countering CAMS (Child And Mother Sabotage) 101
You feel like you're losing your kids to your abuser and you don't understand why they are behaving and responding to you in ways that...
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thebelvinaproject
Dec 28, 20244 min read
CAMS: Child And Mother Sabotage
I sat down to work on some TikTok content the other day and had one of those life affirming moments of clarity. In the midst of...
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spiritsonghcdc
Dec 6, 20243 min read
The Flying Monkey Effect: They're All Around Us
If you've been in the narcissistic abuse world long enough, you know what a flying monkey is. It's the narcissist's circle of loyalists...
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spiritsonghcdc
Nov 22, 20243 min read
My Biggest Mistake: What-Not-to-Do When Co-Parenting With a Narcissist
This is a tough one for me. I have spent the better part of the last eight years doing the heavy lifting of healing from cptsd and...
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spiritsonghcdc
Nov 7, 20244 min read
The Metaphor Continues: Abuser Gets Full Custody
Sigh. I've had to do a lot of coaching myself in the last 48 hours--radical acceptance, circle of control, breathe in...healing means...
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spiritsonghcdc
Oct 10, 20243 min read
The "Dominant" Parent Trap
Dominance. That's their agenda. A quick Google for synonyms for the word dominant brings up ruling, governing, controlling, commanding, supr
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spiritsonghcdc
Oct 2, 20244 min read
Pregnancy: Igniting the Narcissist
Hindsight can be a real bitch. Looking back you can see so clearly how things played out. You can see the moments where you said "This...
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spiritsonghcdc
Sep 23, 20244 min read
Is Coercive Control Lurking in Your Life?
Or is it sitting there in the recliner in the middle of the living room, barking orders at the kids, insulting you, and not participating...
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spiritsonghcdc
Aug 20, 20245 min read
Helplessness to Hopefulness: Connection and Emotional Support
2016 Almost broke me. It triggered wounds I thought I’d healed and moved on from and presented bountiful opportunities for those that...
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spiritsonghcdc
Jul 1, 20244 min read
The Debate and Family Court: Abuse on Stage
I wasn't home when the debate started last Thursday, which was fine because I didn't want to watch it anyway. I knew what would happen. I...
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spiritsonghcdc
Jun 26, 20243 min read
Skull Crusher: That Sounds Fun!
If you knew that a particular rock formation along the river was called "Skull Crusher", would you willingly go over the falls without a...
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spiritsonghcdc
May 28, 20244 min read
5 Tips for Communicating With Your Abuser After Separation
These early days after you've filed are pivotal in setting the tone for how you will be perceived by the court...
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spiritsonghcdc
May 9, 20244 min read
An Open Letter to the Mom I Used to Be
I see you mama, sitting on those steps while your kids obliviously hang on the rails or sit there not even caring at all that they're...
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spiritsonghcdc
May 2, 20243 min read
Father or Bear?
If you're on TikTok, you've likely seen videos about the "man vs. bear" question. I'm not 100% on the origin, but the first video I saw...
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spiritsonghcdc
Apr 22, 20243 min read
Coercive Control 101
I've been divorced from an abusive partner for sixteen years now and have been doing some serious unpacking of all that baggage for the...
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spiritsonghcdc
Mar 25, 20243 min read
Shitty Kitty: Boundary Queen
We joke in our home that Shitty Kitty rules the roost--she's a little maybe 8- pound black cat with half a tail and a saucy attitude. She...
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spiritsonghcdc
Feb 13, 20245 min read
Reckless Parenting: Hallmark of a Narcissist
I was talking with a friend the other day who is the survivor of a trailer fire. I didn't know the details around it and asked him if he...
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spiritsonghcdc
Feb 8, 20243 min read
On Tracy Chapman, Luke Combs, and Fast Cars
As a teenager in the 80's, I already had a pretty wide range of musical interests that included musicians and bands like Depeche Mode,...
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