That feeling you’re feeling right now—as we collectively witness our own government harassing, disappearing, and killing people in the street—is not all that different from what a protective parent feels trying to protect their children from an abuser in family court.

When we talk about generational trauma, we often stop with our parents or grandparents. But what about their parents? And theirs? We are not as far removed from this history as we imagine.

Many states require mediation before trial, especially when child custody is disputed. In theory, mediation can be a useful tool when both parties are reasonable and acting in good faith.