SpiritSong
High-Conflict Divorce and Co-Parent Coaching

Many states require mediation before trial, especially when child custody is disputed. In theory, mediation can be a useful tool when both parties are reasonable and acting in good faith.

Over time, children exposed to exploitativeness may internalize the belief that their worth is tied to what they provide rather than who they are. They learn to monitor, manage, and accommodate adult emotions to preserve connection.

In short, manipulation is the knock-out punch after the emotional erosion of minimization. If minimization makes you doubt your reality, manipulation tells you what to do with that doubt.

The parallels between what’s happening in our nation and what happens to victims of abuse in family court are stark.

Do the work to identify your own core wounds and heal the version of you that ended up in the abusive relationship in the first place.

The truth is I've been struggling as well. The collision of this second term with other big traumas, triggers, and life events has me altern

Anything that ends with "with a narcissist" is liable to be triggering for anyone who's been in a relationship with someone who has...

The current state of political affairs in the United States has me a little shook lately. It's a replay of 2016 to some extent, but I've...

You feel like you're losing your kids to your abuser and you don't understand why they are behaving and responding to you in ways that...

I sat down to work on some TikTok content the other day and had one of those life affirming moments of clarity. In the midst of...

If you've been in the narcissistic abuse world long enough, you know what a flying monkey is. It's the narcissist's circle of loyalists...

This is a tough one for me. I have spent the better part of the last eight years doing the heavy lifting of healing from cptsd and...

Sigh. I've had to do a lot of coaching myself in the last 48 hours--radical acceptance, circle of control, breathe in...healing means...

Dominance. That's their agenda. A quick Google for synonyms for the word dominant brings up ruling, governing, controlling, commanding, supr

Hindsight can be a real bitch. Looking back you can see so clearly how things played out. You can see the moments where you said "This...

Or is it sitting there in the recliner in the middle of the living room, barking orders at the kids, insulting you, and not participating...

I wasn't home when the debate started last Thursday, which was fine because I didn't want to watch it anyway. I knew what would happen. I...

These early days after you've filed are pivotal in setting the tone for how you will be perceived by the court...

I've been divorced from an abusive partner for sixteen years now and have been doing some serious unpacking of all that baggage for the...

I was talking with a friend the other day who is the survivor of a trailer fire. I didn't know the details around it and asked him if he...