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Unraveled: Unbinding the Patriarchal Spell of Self-Abandonment
The bottom line is that our patriarchal society was built on selling codependency as a virtue.
spiritsonghcdc
3 days ago3 min read
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America is (Still) in an Abusive Relationship
The truth is I've been struggling as well. The collision of this second term with other big traumas, triggers, and life events has me altern
spiritsonghcdc
Apr 43 min read
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Psychological Maltreatment 101: A Lesson on the World Stage
I've done a lot of work to heal myself over the last 8 years. Specifically that means understanding the generational trauma that I've...
spiritsonghcdc
Mar 13 min read
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The Suitcase: Generational Trauma and Codependency
Baggage. We all have it. But I hadn’t really stopped to think about what that looks like until recently when I started being confronted...
spiritsonghcdc
Feb 25 min read
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The Metaphor Continues: Abuser Gets Full Custody
Sigh. I've had to do a lot of coaching myself in the last 48 hours--radical acceptance, circle of control, breathe in...healing means...
spiritsonghcdc
Nov 7, 20244 min read
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Helplessness to Hopefulness: Connection and Emotional Support
2016 Almost broke me. It triggered wounds I thought I’d healed and moved on from and presented bountiful opportunities for those that...
spiritsonghcdc
Aug 20, 20245 min read
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Skull Crusher: That Sounds Fun!
If you knew that a particular rock formation along the river was called "Skull Crusher", would you willingly go over the falls without a...
spiritsonghcdc
Jun 26, 20243 min read
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An Open Letter to the Mom I Used to Be
I see you mama, sitting on those steps while your kids obliviously hang on the rails or sit there not even caring at all that they're...
spiritsonghcdc
May 9, 20244 min read
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Shitty Kitty: Boundary Queen
We joke in our home that Shitty Kitty rules the roost--she's a little maybe 8- pound black cat with half a tail and a saucy attitude. She...
spiritsonghcdc
Mar 25, 20243 min read
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On Tracy Chapman, Luke Combs, and Fast Cars
As a teenager in the 80's, I already had a pretty wide range of musical interests that included musicians and bands like Depeche Mode,...
spiritsonghcdc
Feb 8, 20243 min read
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"He's Nothing."
If you haven't been keeping up with the news, E. Jean Carroll is a name you should know. She accused and successfully proved in a civil...
spiritsonghcdc
Jan 30, 20243 min read
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The Labyrinth of Healing
Until just the other day, I thought of the healing journey as something linear. It may be 3 steps forward, 12 steps back, a leap and jog,...
spiritsonghcdc
Jan 9, 20243 min read
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Doing Our Best: Lessons From Buster the Wonderpup
I've been pretty quiet in the blogspace lately. Life has been harder than usual lately. I saw a puppy running down the side of the...
spiritsonghcdc
Oct 9, 20235 min read
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How Do I Find the Right Divorce Coach?
I feel like every time I open any of my social media feeds lately, I'm seeing more and more ads for seemingly higher profile...
spiritsonghcdc
Aug 11, 20233 min read
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Barbie. Just Go See It Already.
There are plenty of articles out there about the movie and why you should go see it. There are also plenty of opinions out there about...
spiritsonghcdc
Aug 7, 20232 min read
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WWSD? (She'd call them the f* out!)
When Sinead O'Conner dropped her first album in 1987, I was 15. She dropped her second album in 1990--the year I graduated high school. I...
spiritsonghcdc
Jul 31, 20234 min read
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Tina Tuner: Simply the Best
July 3rd of 1976 I was four years old, the oldest of two, almost three--my little brother was born later that month. I didn't know who...
spiritsonghcdc
May 27, 20232 min read
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The Mother's Day Report: (I Didn't Cry!)
Maybe that should be it. I didn't cry. The End. If you're paying attention at all to social media, you know that Mother's Day isn't such...
spiritsonghcdc
May 16, 20234 min read
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Should I Stay or Should I Go (Now)?: Musings From the Rearview
If you happen to be a GenXer like me, you may have sung that title in a nod to the Clash's early 80's hit where they question again and...
spiritsonghcdc
May 5, 20235 min read
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But He Never Hit Me: The Emotional Side of Abuse
I can see the tides beginning to shift as topics like coercive control and emotional abuse gain traction in the national discourse. It's...
spiritsonghcdc
May 2, 20234 min read
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