SpiritSong
High-Conflict Divorce and Co-Parent Coaching

Minimization slowly erodes your confidence in perceiving what’s happening to and around you. For victims of coercive control, it often happens in private, with no one else around to validate your experience.

“He was ‘just joking.’ He was ‘just teasing.’ He was ‘just stressed.’ But the truth? He was dismissing you. And dismissiveness is never harmless—it’s a tool of control.”

Do the work to identify your own core wounds and heal the version of you that ended up in the abusive relationship in the first place.

The bottom line is that our patriarchal society was built on selling codependency as a virtue.

The truth is I've been struggling as well. The collision of this second term with other big traumas, triggers, and life events has me altern

The current state of political affairs in the United States has me a little shook lately. It's a replay of 2016 to some extent, but I've...

Baggage. We all have it. But I hadn’t really stopped to think about what that looks like until recently when I started being confronted...

You feel like you're losing your kids to your abuser and you don't understand why they are behaving and responding to you in ways that...

If you've been in the narcissistic abuse world long enough, you know what a flying monkey is. It's the narcissist's circle of loyalists...

This is a tough one for me. I have spent the better part of the last eight years doing the heavy lifting of healing from cptsd and...

Sigh. I've had to do a lot of coaching myself in the last 48 hours--radical acceptance, circle of control, breathe in...healing means...

Hindsight can be a real bitch. Looking back you can see so clearly how things played out. You can see the moments where you said "This...

Or is it sitting there in the recliner in the middle of the living room, barking orders at the kids, insulting you, and not participating...

2016 Almost broke me. It triggered wounds I thought I’d healed and moved on from and presented bountiful opportunities for those that...

If you knew that a particular rock formation along the river was called "Skull Crusher", would you willingly go over the falls without a...

These early days after you've filed are pivotal in setting the tone for how you will be perceived by the court...

I see you mama, sitting on those steps while your kids obliviously hang on the rails or sit there not even caring at all that they're...

We joke in our home that Shitty Kitty rules the roost--she's a little maybe 8- pound black cat with half a tail and a saucy attitude. She...

If you haven't been keeping up with the news, E. Jean Carroll is a name you should know. She accused and successfully proved in a civil...

Until just the other day, I thought of the healing journey as something linear. It may be 3 steps forward, 12 steps back, a leap and jog,...