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The Flying Monkey Effect: They're All Around Us
If you've been in the narcissistic abuse world long enough, you know what a flying monkey is. It's the narcissist's circle of loyalists...
spiritsonghcdc
Dec 6, 20243 min read


My Biggest Mistake: What-Not-to-Do When Co-Parenting With a Narcissist
This is a tough one for me. I have spent the better part of the last eight years doing the heavy lifting of healing from cptsd and...
spiritsonghcdc
Nov 22, 20243 min read


The Metaphor Continues: Abuser Gets Full Custody
Sigh. I've had to do a lot of coaching myself in the last 48 hours--radical acceptance, circle of control, breathe in...healing means...
spiritsonghcdc
Nov 7, 20244 min read


The "Dominant" Parent Trap
Dominance. That's their agenda. A quick Google for synonyms for the word dominant brings up ruling, governing, controlling, commanding, supr
spiritsonghcdc
Oct 10, 20243 min read


Pregnancy: Igniting the Narcissist
Hindsight can be a real bitch. Looking back you can see so clearly how things played out. You can see the moments where you said "This...
spiritsonghcdc
Oct 2, 20244 min read


Is Coercive Control Lurking in Your Life?
Or is it sitting there in the recliner in the middle of the living room, barking orders at the kids, insulting you, and not participating...
spiritsonghcdc
Sep 23, 20244 min read


Helplessness to Hopefulness: Connection and Emotional Support
2016 Almost broke me. It triggered wounds I thought I’d healed and moved on from and presented bountiful opportunities for those that...
spiritsonghcdc
Aug 20, 20245 min read


The Debate and Family Court: Abuse on Stage
I wasn't home when the debate started last Thursday, which was fine because I didn't want to watch it anyway. I knew what would happen. I...
spiritsonghcdc
Jul 1, 20244 min read


Skull Crusher: That Sounds Fun!
If you knew that a particular rock formation along the river was called "Skull Crusher", would you willingly go over the falls without a...
spiritsonghcdc
Jun 26, 20243 min read


5 Tips for Communicating With Your Abuser After Separation
These early days after you've filed are pivotal in setting the tone for how you will be perceived by the court...
spiritsonghcdc
May 28, 20244 min read


An Open Letter to the Mom I Used to Be
I see you mama, sitting on those steps while your kids obliviously hang on the rails or sit there not even caring at all that they're...
spiritsonghcdc
May 9, 20244 min read


Father or Bear?
If you're on TikTok, you've likely seen videos about the "man vs. bear" question. I'm not 100% on the origin, but the first video I saw...
spiritsonghcdc
May 2, 20243 min read
Coercive Control 101
I've been divorced from an abusive partner for sixteen years now and have been doing some serious unpacking of all that baggage for the...
spiritsonghcdc
Apr 22, 20243 min read


Shitty Kitty: Boundary Queen
We joke in our home that Shitty Kitty rules the roost--she's a little maybe 8- pound black cat with half a tail and a saucy attitude. She...
spiritsonghcdc
Mar 25, 20243 min read


Reckless Parenting: Hallmark of a Narcissist
I was talking with a friend the other day who is the survivor of a trailer fire. I didn't know the details around it and asked him if he...
spiritsonghcdc
Feb 13, 20245 min read


On Tracy Chapman, Luke Combs, and Fast Cars
As a teenager in the 80's, I already had a pretty wide range of musical interests that included musicians and bands like Depeche Mode,...
spiritsonghcdc
Feb 8, 20243 min read


"He's Nothing."
If you haven't been keeping up with the news, E. Jean Carroll is a name you should know. She accused and successfully proved in a civil...
spiritsonghcdc
Jan 30, 20243 min read


The Labyrinth of Healing
Until just the other day, I thought of the healing journey as something linear. It may be 3 steps forward, 12 steps back, a leap and jog,...
spiritsonghcdc
Jan 9, 20243 min read


Doing Our Best: Lessons From Buster the Wonderpup
I've been pretty quiet in the blogspace lately. Life has been harder than usual lately. I saw a puppy running down the side of the...
spiritsonghcdc
Oct 9, 20235 min read


The Healing Journey: Step 2
With a fancy title like that, I bet you think I've got it all figured out and am about to enlighten you with some knowledge that will...
spiritsonghcdc
Sep 19, 20234 min read
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