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Is Coercive Control Lurking in Your Life?
Or is it sitting there in the recliner in the middle of the living room, barking orders at the kids, insulting you, and not participating...
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Sep 23, 20244 min read
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Helplessness to Hopefulness: Connection and Emotional Support
2016 Almost broke me. It triggered wounds I thought I’d healed and moved on from and presented bountiful opportunities for those that...
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Aug 20, 20245 min read
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The Debate and Family Court: Abuse on Stage
I wasn't home when the debate started last Thursday, which was fine because I didn't want to watch it anyway. I knew what would happen. I...
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Jul 1, 20244 min read
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Skull Crusher: That Sounds Fun!
If you knew that a particular rock formation along the river was called "Skull Crusher", would you willingly go over the falls without a...
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Jun 26, 20243 min read
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5 Tips for Communicating With Your Abuser After Separation
These early days after you've filed are pivotal in setting the tone for how you will be perceived by the court...
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May 28, 20244 min read
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An Open Letter to the Mom I Used to Be
I see you mama, sitting on those steps while your kids obliviously hang on the rails or sit there not even caring at all that they're...
spiritsonghcdc
May 9, 20244 min read
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Father or Bear?
If you're on TikTok, you've likely seen videos about the "man vs. bear" question. I'm not 100% on the origin, but the first video I saw...
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May 2, 20243 min read
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Coercive Control 101
I've been divorced from an abusive partner for sixteen years now and have been doing some serious unpacking of all that baggage for the...
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Apr 22, 20243 min read
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Shitty Kitty: Boundary Queen
We joke in our home that Shitty Kitty rules the roost--she's a little maybe 8- pound black cat with half a tail and a saucy attitude. She...
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Mar 25, 20243 min read
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Reckless Parenting: Hallmark of a Narcissist
I was talking with a friend the other day who is the survivor of a trailer fire. I didn't know the details around it and asked him if he...
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Feb 13, 20245 min read
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On Tracy Chapman, Luke Combs, and Fast Cars
As a teenager in the 80's, I already had a pretty wide range of musical interests that included musicians and bands like Depeche Mode,...
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Feb 8, 20243 min read
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"He's Nothing."
If you haven't been keeping up with the news, E. Jean Carroll is a name you should know. She accused and successfully proved in a civil...
spiritsonghcdc
Jan 30, 20243 min read
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The Labyrinth of Healing
Until just the other day, I thought of the healing journey as something linear. It may be 3 steps forward, 12 steps back, a leap and jog,...
spiritsonghcdc
Jan 9, 20243 min read
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Doing Our Best: Lessons From Buster the Wonderpup
I've been pretty quiet in the blogspace lately. Life has been harder than usual lately. I saw a puppy running down the side of the...
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Oct 9, 20235 min read
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The Healing Journey: Step 2
With a fancy title like that, I bet you think I've got it all figured out and am about to enlighten you with some knowledge that will...
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Sep 19, 20234 min read
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Measuring Healing: Big Progress in Micro Moments
I've said before that healing isn't really a destination. You don't end up landing with both feet in the middle of a big circle with an X...
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Sep 1, 20234 min read
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What Is Self-Care? (I'm so glad you asked!)
Self-care seems to be having its day in the sun. Seems you can't open the interwebs without seeing articles, ads, or posts about...
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Aug 16, 20233 min read
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How Do I Find the Right Divorce Coach?
I feel like every time I open any of my social media feeds lately, I'm seeing more and more ads for seemingly higher profile...
spiritsonghcdc
Aug 11, 20233 min read
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Barbie. Just Go See It Already.
There are plenty of articles out there about the movie and why you should go see it. There are also plenty of opinions out there about...
spiritsonghcdc
Aug 7, 20232 min read
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WWSD? (She'd call them the f* out!)
When Sinead O'Conner dropped her first album in 1987, I was 15. She dropped her second album in 1990--the year I graduated high school. I...
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Jul 31, 20234 min read
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